Be Fair to Yourself
- SWiB Member
- Aug 25, 2015
- 2 min read
Ugh! Once again, I found myself at another relationship dead end. You know, the one where you think you’re getting to know someone with late night phone calls and silly texts during the day, only to be left emotionally vacant when you find out you’re not the only one. You’re not the only who’s been laughing with them on the phone or sharing their emotional hiccups as they arrive. You’re not the only one who’s been encouraging them or making them smile. You’re not the only one receiving cute selfies or planning trips full of whimsical adventures!
Bottom Line: You’re just not the only one.
But I have to say, this situation has been the most perplexing yet. After being told, “You’re not the only one,” I simply asked to be removed from the consideration set for talent that was being vetted. Here’s the catch. This guy then proceeded to tell me that “[I wasn’t] being fair.” EXCUSE ME?
Yes, it’s true. Apparently wanting to get to know someone one-on-one, without distractions, is being unfair. I have to admit, I was totally caught off guard. Was I unfair for saying, “Sorry, but I’d rather not be a part of your collection of emotional ass this season?” Or was I unfair for saying, “Let’s just be friends?”
Neither. Because point blank, I was being extremely FAIR! Fair to myself. As a gorgeous, educated, single woman who’s traveled the world, the only injustice here is the fact that I’m yet again having to deal with mediocre BS from men so screwed up from their mommy issues that they think it’s acceptable to resolve their ineptitude for genuine relationships via a plethora of half-assed dating situations until they eventually get it right.
So, the next time a man tells you, “You’re not the only one,” be fair to yourself and let him go. Pursue your dreams and be patient. Mediocrity is all around us, but only a few are daring enough to believe that they are exceptional.
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